Every individual has needs and requirements and preferences on what they want out of a relationship and love right? If you put your Preferences and Qualities in order of what you wanted out of a relationship and what you liked about that person Could it ever be wrong or shallow or selfish? and can it PREVENT you from loving that person as a *WHOLE?
here are some examples......
(this is what TOM wants out of his relationship)
1. Great sex
3. Fun partner
(this is what he likes and loves the most about JILL)
1. Her smile
2. her breast
3. her cooking
4. her blowjobs
(this is what JILL wants out of her relationship)
(this is what she likes and loves the most about TOM)
1. Hes generous
2. Makes good money
3. has a big dick
4. likes to cuddle
Now can those Preferences and Qualities make you fall in love with those *THINGS* and not so much as that person as a *WHOLE*?? or does all that tie in TOGETHER?
Can one partner love those things TOOOOooo the point its a ADDICTION or makes the other feel like they dont love them for who they truly are?
We all know relationships are full of emotions and feelings which feelings and emotions come and go all the time....but how do you know if your partner truly loves you for you?
If love and relationships are a growing process and always have room to grow whose to say that someone doesnt love you just because they dont love you the way you want them to at the moment?
Most of all in a committed relationship where does one try to be fair and meet the expectations or physical needs of the other partner and where do they draw the line at?